Welcome to Spanking Romance Reviews' Round Table Discussion. Our topic today is "Bringing Spanking into the Relationship."
I'd like to start out by telling you how I brought spanking into my own relationship, and then I'll show you how you can, too.
First of all, I'm not a masochist or anything, but I wanted to try spanking.
I wasn't even sure I'd like it, but I knew I had to try it, that something seemed to be missing without it.
Somehow, though, the secret brain waves I was beaming to my husband just weren't getting through, so what I finally had to do is put myself on the line and ask for what I wanted.
Now you might think, ‘Big deal,’ but it is a big deal, because I’m basically pretty shy and we never talked about sex when I was growing up, so it’s not something I'm all that comfortable discussing. I suffered through years of frustration, wishing he'd just read my mind already and do what I wanted done, but you know what?Most guys aren’t psychic. You actually have to ask.
And it's hard. Sure it is. There's a chance he'll think you’re a total freak, but there's also a chance it’ll work out just fine.
How I handled it is, one night I left him a note to find in the morning. Since I sleep later than he does, I knew he'd read it alone and have all day to think about it. I was scared witless and almost got out of bed to tear it up several times, but then I kept reminding myself what an awesome husband he's always been. I figured I'd go ahead and take the chance, hoping he'd at least be willing to try it without judging me.
I couched the note in as delicate terms as possible, saying something like, "We should play naughty schoolgirl when you get home tonight."
What he wrote back is, "Sounds good to me."
All that fear and worrying for nothing, It was just that simple, and I'd be willing to bet it would be more or less the same if you brought it up to your significant other. And if they did treat you like a freak for asking, I would suggest to you that maybe you're not right for each other, which is a whole other discussion, so go on.
Stop being a wuss and ask for what you want, because if you don't ask, the answer will always be no.